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07 february 2009


As economy takes a hit, women become dominatrixes to pad their income

Source: www.nydailynews.com New York Daily News - New York,NY,USA


The economy is enduring a serious bruising.
And it's making some women do things they've never done before.
They're turning to freelance work. And for some of them, that means freelance dominatrix work, Tracey Quan reports in The Daily Beast.


"As a former call girl, I know plenty of people in the industry, and I recently spoke to several who have started doing kink work to supplement their incomes," Quan writes in The Daily Beast.

"Though dominatrix work is considered by many to be the hardest in the sex industry, being able to avoid actual intercourse is key to its appeal to 'everyday' women who are just looking to pick up a little extra money," Quan writes. You can read more at Quan's Kinkonomics blog at thedailybeast.com.

A dominatrix - or pro-domme, as many preferred to be called - is a woman who subjects her masochistic sexual partner to bondage, ritualistic punishments, and other discipline. It does not mean that she has sexual intercourse with her partner, and in fact, very often the dominatrix does not sleep with her submissive.

Yes, there are men who pay for this, and it might not be exactly who you expect. Mistress Patricia Payne (a pseudonym), author of "Sex Tips from a Dominatrix" told Salon.com that her client list included bank presidents and publishers, among other types of men.

"The people I engage with tend to be type-A personalities. It's taking a break for them -- letting someone else be in charge for a couple hours," she told Salon.com.

Quan writes that clients are "middle-management types, small business owners, dentists, young lawyers, even a few single males who see themselves as casualties of the gig economy."

Hmmm, between Payne and Quan, it seems we've run through quite a few different types of men who are likely to seek the services of a dominatrix.

"Sometimes the client is married and their spouse simply won’t engage in this kind of thing and if they aren’t comfortable or into it, it’s not their job to do so. Everybody is entitled to get theirs just the way they want it and a dominatrix makes that happen the best they can," an NYU student who spent a summer working as a dominatrix told NYULocal.com.

The student, who called herself "Mistress Ava," continued, telling NYULocal.com:

"For the client, being dominated is 100% about sensuality but it is not about sex. There is no sex and no nudity inside a dungeon. Sure, there are places that bend the rules and give the job a bad name but I was never once naked or even close to it, and no one ever did anything to me, period."

No sex, but apparently there might be some cleaning or men in high heels.

"I could have a guy in high heels and a maid suit cleaning my house every day of the week," Mistress Payne told Salon.com.

The money a dominatrix can make is fairly significant.
"The money is by far the best part of it," Mistress Ava told NYULocal.com. "For an hour of my time in the dungeon, I put at least 200 dollars in my pocket. The one thing that all of the girls in this line of business have in common is money savvy and the ability to save because, for a good amount, this occupation is just a lucrative business move." To read more about Mistress Ava, visit NYULocal.com and search "Dominatrix."

One Web site, LadyRules.com, charges $1,000 per hour for a single person or $1,300 per hour for a couple. Quan says that the professional escorts get about $500 per hour, though a freelancer may only get about $80 per hour.

There's money to be made in the industry, but there is a catch for many women.

As Mistress Ava put it, "emotionally, it was very taxing."