BDSM MEDIA NEWS!!!!
16 december 2011
Slap and tickle: Are you brave enough
to submit to the whip?
Have you been a naughty boy or girl? 'See me,' says dominatrix Mistress Josephine, Metro's head of discipline.
Source: www.metro.co.uk - Metro - UK
UK - I’ve never encountered a real-life dominatrix before. I don’t suppose many of us have. So when I approach Mistress Josephine’s chambers, a million thoughts fly through my mind. I’m apprehensive, to say the least, but also excited about what I will learn - because I am about to attend my first lesson at the London School Of Mistressing.
The brainchild of Mistress Josephine, 40, the school is for couples who’ve lost that spark in the bedroom, or for those who have ever wondered what it’s like to play the mistress/master fantasy. It’s also for those who have an interest in the fetish world and want to learn more in a safe environment.
Don’t be put off by the word fetish: as Mistress Josephine explains, her lessons cover a range of personal fantasies. From the more extreme, such as spanking and bondage, to an exploration of dominant and submissive sides in the bedroom.
‘I teach couples how to play in a BDSM environment [the term used to describe consensual use of restraint, sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role-play],’ she says. ‘I’ll teach you how to become a power figure, making your partner fulfil your every need. This can also be role reversed, which is great fun as role-play is a real eye opener for couples.’
Opening the door in a full PVC playsuit, Josephine is everything you’d expect a dominatrix to be. She has a sharp, black bob, full red lips and a no-nonsense attitude. However, what I’m not expecting is her warm and friendly demeanour.
Walking into her chamber is daunting but subtle lighting gives the white brick walls and white vinyl linoleum floor a hip Soho bar ambience. There are whips and chains hanging from the walls and a mirrored ceiling. A school desk sits in one corner and several pieces of erotic furniture are dotted around the room. A large cage, complete with dog bowl and a shelf full of vibrators (which I am told are for external massage only) are the only eye-openers in the room. Shocking? Yes. Intimidating? Definitely. But you need to remember this is a working chamber.
For our class, Josephine changes into a pencil skirt and basque. You can see she is passionate about the school and says most people have a fantasy or curiosity in their head but aren’t quite sure how to put it together. ‘People aren’t sure how to take it from their minds to a reality in the bedroom,’ she explains. ‘I can help them do just that by talking them through the different tools and techniques they need to play safely.’ Having previously taught workshops at erotic boutique Coco de Mer, Josephine realised there was a lot of interest from both men and women in the fetish scene. She also found that she had a knack for teaching and lots of first-hand knowledge - having been a professional dominatrix for nine years.
‘I assisted Coco de Mer with some of their spanking workshops and really enjoyed teaching,’ she says. ‘I felt there was a gap in the market for safe places to go and learn more about the fetish scene, so I launched the school. Now, couples can come and understand how to play with the things they enjoy, or simply learn how to enhance their sex life.’
Josephine is quick to point out that the biggest misconception about being a dominatrix is that there’s pain and sex involved. ‘Both are certainly not on the menu,’ she says. ‘A lot of people approach dominatrixing from a very masochistic way but I’m more about the psychology.’ Although she has no formal qualifications, Josephine says she sees herself as a mistress of the mind. ‘I want to know what works for you as a couple and help you learn more about it in a safe environment. You can then go off and experiment with your new knowledge and skills at home.’
Initially, Josephine interviews couples by phone to find out what they’re interested in, followed by a two-hour session at her chambers where she instructs them in whatever fetish they crave. For example, spanking is not simply about hitting your partner’s behind as hard as you can to cause pain.
‘The school gives you a chance to learn the correct way to spank someone,’ says Josephine. ‘The technique is important, as you want to warm the skin on the bottom so it raises the endorphin levels [our feel-good hormone]. Spanking can be very intimate, especially over the knee, as it mixes nurture with discipline. With bondage, I will teach you how to restrain someone safely. The feeling of restriction is very powerful, especially if you add a blindfold.’
Adults going back to school is nothing new but we can guarantee this is one lesson where learning will be lots of fun. And you’ll be racing home to do your homework.
A two-hour lesson with Mistress Josephine costs £300. Tel: 07557 506760.
www.londonschoolofmistressing.com.
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