Dear Doctor Charley,
I care for a submissive who is having problems with alcohol and drug abuse. We haven’t started dating yet but have teased and flirted with each other a few times. He’s talked about needing help and having someone he can rely on and talk to yet I’m not sure I can be all he needs and I think maybe staying away from him is best. What do you recommend in this type of situation?
Lady Stacy
Lady Stacy,
A Dom/me isn't a therapist and shouldn't try to become one for a submissive. No one wants a "project" sub. This isn't "flip that house"! It isn't worth it nor a good position to be in no matter how fun/good/cute/loving, etc. the sub or for that matter the Dominant is.
Yes, it's a good idea for you to stay away and let him find his own way. Though this may sound heartless, it's the best advice for any relationship both D/s or vanilla. Once the submissive has their problem under control and has been clean and sober for at least a year, then considering a relationship with him is okay. You can be a friend IF he agrees to counseling and a treatment program. Otherwise, you’re opening the door for a whole lot of problems for yourself.
Live with passion,
Doctor Charley…
